On Happiness

You know what makes a real, genuinely happy and whole person?

No, it is not achievement, recognition, money, possession, power, or fame.

For these second-rate, sadly inculcated, and deeply-ingrained definitions of success call for an exhausting life of constantly comparing, chasing, competiting, and contemplating how to get ahead. Only to get to the end stripped off of every single one of these superficial, depreciating frills.

It’s not putting someone else’s wants and needs before yours either. It is not sacrificing for people or causes you care about the most.

A bit of selflessness looks, feels, and is, for the most part, good, for it gives you a sense of purpose. But happiness? Be honest. Not always, right? Especially when it starts to put a toll on your own health, sanity, financial security…your wellbeing.

Happiness does not involve anyone or anything else but yourself. For what makes a person truly happy, is enlightenment. Having wisdom.

Knowing when, and having the ability, to pull your focus and energy off anyone or anything that is not in lined with your True Self. The second you are not being honest with yourself, your desires and intentions, is the very second you welcome misery in your life.

Happiness is a mindset, an attitude, a discipline, a lifestyle. To ellaborate, it is how you perceive, how you choose to react or behave, how you train yourself and develop…it is how you live your life. You are either capable of it or not. You either want it or not. You are either it or not. It’s your choice.

The sooner you get this, the sooner you stop blaming others, or circumstances, for your unhappiness. The more you accept that happiness is within you, the less you try and look for it “out there”: other people’s validation, a particular possession, title, religion or any other institution, goal, person, or place.

I’m not saying happiness is everything and should be the guiding light of all of humanity. But being a happy, positive person is a damn good start, especially ’cause energy is highly contagious. In fact, we’re made of it. So what sort of energy would you like to spread around, or be? One that is inspiring and uplifting, or one that you, and other people, would rather live without?

So go ahead, spend time with yourself, be courageous enough to look within you, and get to know yourself, over and over again if you have to, if it means you gain insight, wisdom…enlightenment. Only then you can become as genuine as you can be. Only then you learn how to be the person who, and create a life that, makes you truly happy.

Nothing But Gratitude As Brave Vulnerable Hits Amazon’s Best Sellers For The First Time

One month since its publication, and two days before Christmas, Brave Vulnerable’s Kindle edition hits the top 50 on Amazon’s Best Sellers. So unexpected. I’m so happy right now. To those who endlessly extend their love and support, thank you so much. You’re a part of this journey, let’s go!

(As of 12:14 pm NZST, 12-23-2016)

Brave Vulnerable’s Instagram Giveaway

Active on Instagram? Get a chance to win a free copy of my newly released book, Brave Vulnerable.

I’m set to have a proper giveaway in a couple of weeks or so, but I’m just overwhelmed by all the hearts I’m getting on Instagram so I’m doing a LITTLE pre-giveaway giveaway! 😂

All you have to do is (1) follow me on Instagram, (2) like this post: To Silence a Man, and (3) mention/tag a friend via comment on that post.

Winners will be announced on my Instagram page by Dec. 17, 2016 NZST.

Wouldn’t hurt to join and share some love. Cheers! xx

Electronic Brave Vulnerable, Out Now

Getting a copy of Brave Vulnerable is now quick and easy as you can download it from Smashwords.

Kindle version is also available.

You don’t have to have a Kindle device to read Kindle eBooks. All you have to do is download the Kindle App from Google Play, Apple App Store, or Windows Store.

Brave Vulnerable is a collection of a hundred and one poems divided into three chapters. It’s a guardless story about love — its beauty and its scars. The book is gritty and soft spoken, troubled and calm, painful and soothing; it’s wholehearted.

Download a copy now. xx

Here’s a taste:


A Milestone for a Milestone

I wanted a unique, incredible way to celebrate the release of my debut poetry book, Brave Vulnerable. So I jumped off a plane 12,000 ft above sea level!

Skydiving is definitely above and beyond. It’s personal, symbolic. There’s something bigger about it — spiritual, no single adjective is enough to define how the experience made me feel. I’m glad I did it, and I believe my beloved, gritty, brave vulnerables already have it on their bucket list. Do it guys! Love! xx

My Proof Copy Arrived Today!

So pleased with how it all turned out. Special thanks to my mother. She painted exactly what I’ve envisioned for the book cover. That just adds to how much this debut poetry book means to me. I could literally die right now. Oh wait, not yet. I still have to make sure it’s ready for the public eye. Thanks for your patience, and support in advanced!

My Book Is On Its Way!

It’s a beautiful feeling to see how much the first ever printed copy of your book has traveled to get to you. It’s finally here in Auckland. OMG!   

Can’t wait to share my work to all of you. Shout out to my few but lovely WordPress followers. It all started here. 😉 This is for you!

I’ll keep you posted! xx